tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198029050113881808.post4849790932216602535..comments2008-03-23T12:00:06.118-05:00Stephen G. Barkleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07001887356645489504noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198029050113881808.post-29541145375295822222008-03-23T08:15:00.000-05:002008-03-23T08:15:00.000-05:002008-03-23T08:15:00.000-05:00Steve--<BR/>I can't tell you how invaluable your statement--find out what the teacher values--has been. As I work with coaches and teachers I find that ten minutes of conversation before beginning work opens the door because I can (sometimes) figure out the hidden agenda and what they really want me to help them with--or if they want my help at all. If I just jump into the work I end up focusing on the wrong thing!raffermnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3198029050113881808.post-48037659592413771702008-03-10T18:54:00.000-05:002008-03-10T18:54:00.000-05:002008-03-10T18:54:00.000-05:00Dear Steve,<BR/>In these situations I frequently refer to the "Psychotherapist's Dilemma." I therapist meets with a client for the first time and immediately knows what the problem is. Telling the client accomplishes nothing. Asking questions and allowing the client to discover the problem for themselves leads to change. The same for coaching conferences. <BR/><BR/>Neil RothmanNeil Rothmannoreply@blogger.com