I suggested that paraphrasing instead of questioning was sometimes a helpful response.
Here is an example I used:
TEACHER: “My students won’t read an assignment so I don’t see how I can do anything other than present information in class, hoping they will remember some of it.
Coach: You have not been able to get many of the students to work outside of class. Teacher confirms.
Coach: You are worried that presenting information in class won’t get the student achievement that you want. Teacher confirms.
Coach: If students read outside of class you would teach very differently. Teacher confirms.
Coach: You want to find a way to get them to read outside of class
I call this strategy…taking Gripes to Goals. The series of paraphrases reframe the teacher’s words so that a focus for creating a change emerges.
One of the coaches wanted to role play a difficult situation she was facing. She explained that she was requested (by the principal) to work with a teacher who had received four “needs improvement” evaluation comments. Observations showed a lack of classroom management and lack of student engagement. The students did not do homework the teacher assigned and many were failing. The teacher has 30 year’s experience and a doctorate…The coach is in her 7th year.She played the teacher and I took a coaching role:
Coach: Before we begin, tell me how you are feeling about us working together.
Teacher: I’m wondering how with all my experience and hard work there is anything you can do to make things different. I don’t think you understand.
Coach: You want to be sure I understand. Tell me things you want me to know.
Teacher: There are some very challenging students in here. They don’t do the work and fail the tests. I work very hard and have done everything I can think of. I have great relationships with kids. The principal thinks I’m too friendly but I disagree.
Coach: You work very hard and want your students to be successful.
Teacher: Yes I do.
Coach: You believe the relationships you have with the students supports them as learners.
Teacher: Yes
Coach: You are working hard and students are failing, so you need to do something else.
Teacher: I’m not sure.
Coach: So you have yet to decide whether to keep doing what you are doing harder and longer OR try doing something else.
Teacher: Yeah, I guess so.
Coach: I’m wondering if I can help you with that decision. I’d be happy to look at your students work, then observe them in the classroom, and discuss what I see.
Teacher: OK
Interesting that when we debriefed the role play with the entire group the person playing the teacher said that she “changed her attitude” because I said “she was a good teacher.”
Note, I never said that.
I believe that paraphrasing caused the teacher to feel “listened to and respected” The reframing caused the teacher to accept a goal for exploration. Now a coach can work with a goal to which the teacher has agreed.
Try using paraphrases to turn gripes to goals. Let me know what you find.

3 comments:
Steve,
Hi from Hampton Township NJ! You may recall me from years ago. I recently discovered your blog and have enjoyed reading your postings.
I agree that building trusting relationships begins with effective communication. Paraphrasing reinforces that skill when speaking with others in a coaching relationship. Thanks for sharing and I will continue to look in... Michael
Steve-
I just found your blog and what a perfect time, too! I have a situation very close to the one you described and I can't wait to apply my new learning!
Literacy Coach
Hi Steve, it's great to be able to go over what you helped us to learn back in Turkey.
I think, paraphrasing sometimes works as a magic wand. The person feels well understood so you can continue the conversation with trust.
Thank you.
Esra S. REHILL
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