A common topic of my presentations is relationships and the connection to student achievement. Sometimes exploring teacher to teacher relationships, professional learning communities or vertical teams or peer coaching...all possibilities for teachers to support each other in providing for maximum student achievement.
I worked with the staff at the United Nations International School in Hanoi, Vietnam. One hundred twenty teachers and administrators of the Pre K-12 faculty spent two days understanding teacher collegiality and practicing peer coaching skills. The 20 teachers new to the school were invited to coach in the classroom of returning staff…a great strategy to start building teacher relationships.
At other times I’m exploring how teachers use the opening days of school to lay the ground work for positive relationships with their students.
In Middle Ground (Aug 2010), Tara Brown , the author of Different Cultures-Common Ground: 85 proven Strategies to Connect in Your Classroom examines the power of positive relationships.
“Positive relationships truly have the ability and the power to unleash untapped potential in our students. Relationships and instruction are not an either-or proposition, but are rather an incredible combination. Research tells us this combination will increase engagement, motivation, test scores, and grade point averages while decreasing absenteeism, dropout rates, and discipline issues.”
How purposeful and intentional are the relationship-building activities being conducted at your school as teachers and students return? Last year I was working with 100 high school principals and asked them to list three changes in teachers’ behaviors that would produce the greatest increase in student performance. As I looked over their shoulders I noticed almost everyone had something in their top three related to improved relationships with students: know them better, care, have kids know you care, etc. I then asked them to list the professional development topics they had explored and the issues covered in faculty meeting agendas during the past year. Interestingly relationships often had not been addressed even once.Leesburg High School in FL had teachers tackle these questions in PLC’s prior to students’ first day:
#1 What should students see and/or hear on the first day and each day of the school year?
#2 What ways can you learn more about your students during the first day of school and each day of the year?
#3 What ways can Leesburg High School reach the goal of being student centered?
#4 How does the 9th week of school compare to the first?
Teachers’ responses were collected, collated and distributed to the staff as a toolkit and resource. A great way to increase teachers’ conscious behaviors as student arrive.
In Simply the Best:29 Things Students Say the Best Teachers Do Around Relationships, Kelly Middleton and Elizabeth Petitt report that after interviewing hundreds of students, as well as reading comments from various studies and authors, the words of students resonate with clarity a profound desire for adults to view them on a human and humane level.(pg 41)
Students say the Best Teachers:
#1 Know us personally.
#2 Let us know who they are as individuals or people.
#3 Smile at us.
A great reminder for starting the year and one to review often throughout the year!



**Black students were independent and private about their work. They often studied longer than the white or Asian students but behind closed doors. With no one to talk with they could only check their answers against the back of the book and spent more time doing the arithmetic of each problem and less time on bigger concepts. Often discouraged, they didn’t talk much math outside of class. Separating their academic and social lives, black students were unaware that the anxieties and difficulties they were having were experienced by others. Thinking they alone were struggling triggered the identity threat that decreased performance.




